A Secret of Pain

This book brings you on a journey of the philosophies of life as I see it. Trust, to me, will be the foundation to how you regulate your life. Every stage of our life cycle, from infancy to adulthood, will impact how we trust ourselves and others. If we don’t take the time to do the healing work, the unhealed traumas from broken trust can cause self- destructing behaviors.

Healing is actually a life-long journey. Healing from trauma does not mean you will not get flashbacks of the past. Healing from trauma means when you do get those flashbacks from the past, it would not affect you nor your emotions. Healing from trauma means you can look back at what happened to you and not see yourself as a victim, but as a survivor. A survivor who had to survive the moment. You will start to forgive yourself. You will also forgive the ones who broke their trust with you. You will see the reality of that hurt people, hurt people. Everyone has a story on how they became how they are. Trauma spills over in the next generations  when the parents do not take the time and energy to heal. It can be a nonending cycle. That is why it is very important to take the time and energy to heal. You may not ever trust the person/people who broke your trust. You do have to start trusting yourself. Trust yourself that you will not put yourself back in self-destructive environments. Chaos and pain become comfort when it is all that you know. It becomes your new normal. That is why no one understands why the  victim stays. It is because to them, it is another Tuesday. When you start to heal, the things you were comfortable with, will start to make you uncomfortable. That uncomfortability should be the light bulb moment in your life, to enact change. That is the moment that will either make you or break you. Will you sink or will you swim? The choice is yours.